Do You REALLY Still Love Me Now that I No Longer Fit Your Definition of Who You Think I AM.

I love this quote from Author Dean Jackson.....
a lot of what I've felt since I've gotten my wings.

We all have differences, different political views, religious and other social differences. We all have quirks. We're all a little unique in our own ways....embracing differences doesn't mean you necessarily agree with some one's view point.  If you love and embrace someone, it doesn't mean you are going to end up with their quirks or differences... just means you embrace the human that God created. GOD created us differently....and guess what, since He created us that means HE knows we have those difference.  And guess what HE accepts us and our differences.   HE loves us.  He tells us to LOVE others...tells us the greatest of these is LOVE....that's funny!  REALLY?  Do you still love me since I no longer fit the mold you say I should? BUT I know God does...and the work He has started in me is not finished or perfected until the day He calls me home.

My ex stopped by last evening to drop something off for our son, he says, I hear you are learning to play the Ukulele....then he proceeds to ask about the white water rafting and the other things I've done since he and I have been a part....then says to me..I didn't realize you were into all of that stuff......hmmmmmmm.....maybe that's' because you didn't give me a chance to show you that side of me because you were so busy telling me what I did and didn't like.  

MADE me think about the people who have left my side, the people who removed me from their circle of friendship since the divorce and I've started learning who I really am.

Do we REALLY want people to be themselves?  Do we really want to know their differences?  I don't think so.

And how do you be yourself without being completely self serving...there is a fine line between being yourself and putting yourself before others.  We need to have a healthy balance of knowing who we are and being true to our likes, dislikes, and our personalities.

Today,  I'm seeing a lot on social media posts about being yourself..that we are all different and how we should embrace that....REALLY?  Funny how now that I've started to find out who I really am and have stopped letting people dictate what I like and don't like...over these last few years the people who have disappeared from my life... what is that again about how we are ALL different and we should just be ourselves???  Come again?!?

People are funny!  Be yourself.....but I'll only like you if your version of yourself is someone I can accept and tolerate.  

It's really true...you really do find out who are your true friends by who is still by your side after the skeletons have come out of the closet.  

I let go and I've decided to be just who I AM!  Weird, unique and different!


Love the weird and unique



Marcy!!!

The Golden Rule

I saw this image on this site...Loved it!
  http://www.breathofoptimism.com/

The Golden Rule is an ethical or moral code that states we should treat others the way we want to be treated.  

I have seen people's reactions to those I have worked with over the past 2 years with mental, physical, and behavioral disabilities.  It astonishes me the way people really treat those that "aren't like" us.  To this day those with mental or physical disabilities are not treated as well as those who have no mental, physical, or behavioral diagnosis.  I was at a restaurant with a group of such individuals in which they were on their best behavior but because some talked differently or talked a bit more loudly than what is "expected" I guess....I don't even know why... but there was a table of a mom, grandma and two young children..who got up and moved because "they just couldn't sit next to those people".   I have seen the looks of disdain, pity and I guess just plain misunderstanding as we have walked through a store or museum.  

I have learned that it wasn't that long ago that people that have such disabilities were just locked away in an asylum because we as society didn't understand that there really were issues in the brain and chemical makeup of some people that made them act differently than what we consider the norm.

It makes me think about that fact that yes, indeed there are those who suffer from pretty severe mental/behavioral and sometimes physical disabilities.  Most by no fault of their own.   But they are human.  HUMAN, just like you and I.   They may not understand the world in the same way as we do, but really does the world even make sense to anyone some days?  And don't we all have moments that we act differently, usually due to choices we make on our own where we cause our own frustrations.  Sometimes we are own worse enemy.  My point being, we ALL have some sort of issue/issues from time to time.  We all can be considered "different".

When I was running the day camp program at the youth ranch camp.  I one day taught the golden rule, "treat others the way you want to be treated"...we read the Bernstein Bears Golden Locket book...and made our own lockets to remind us of how we should treat others.   We were in the middle of free play when I was sitting inside the tent area and I heard some little ones bickering in the sand box...I listened and a little girl let out with an ear piercing shout "IF YOU DON'T WANT ME TO YELL AT YOU, THEN DON'T YELL AT ME"!!!    Everyone stopped, even the ants stopped to listen!   Needless to say the young man who was giving her a hard time and shouting at her...didn't raise his voice to her the rest of the week...nor did he to anyone!  lol..She got her point across!   Treat others the way you want to be treated!   LOL!   SHE got it...and so did the rest of the buckaroos! LOL!!!  No one raised their voice the rest of the week!

We all see every day, discrimination to SOME degree.   Discrimination in ANY form against ANY differences is just plain wrong!   WRONG!  WE are all human, we all bleed, we all laugh, we all cry, we all fall down, we all rise up.  We are ALL subject to discrimination and I'm sure most of us have experienced it at some point in our lives.   I know we don't live in an ideal world..but my ideal world would be to consider all of our differences UNIQUE and to give each other the benefit of the doubt. Treat people with respect and dignity until or unless they prove they don't deserve your respect or dignity by doing some heinous act against you or your family, or unless they threaten your safety and well being.  

Why can't we all just get along? Why can't we embrace each others differences?  Why can't we all just:

TREAT OTHERS THE WAY WE WANT TO BE TREATED.   

I wish everyone a very wonderful Sunday evening and a great week ahead!  And I pray for safety for those who may have to travel in inclement weather.  Have a good week! 



Marcy