FWF ~ New Chapter~ NEW HOUSE

I missed last week's free writing Friday, due to the fact I was one busy gal!  A busy gal closing on her first house since she's been divorced.  In fact the FIRST house she has gotten totally on her own!!!

I am so excited! I can't wait to have my OWN room! Sounds silly I know..Anyhow....we've shared one bedroom and two closets for the last three years!  Doable, but not ideal!  I am desperately needing my OWN space! MY OWN ROOM!!!    Now, I can do that!  I never thought I'd see this day!  To think just a little over 3 years ago the boys and I were living in a camper and I'd cry myself to sleep wondering HOW I would get through it or IF I ever would!   WELL,  I've done it!  I got through some of the toughest years of my life.  It's been rough, but I did it!!!

I know there are always trials for us to endure, hardships.  With each new one, I will approach it and get through it.  For now, I will revel in the fact that I did it!  I was able to pull myself up by the boot straps and start over!

It feels good!!!!  So happy!  Now back to packing!  I've got a house to move into!!

Have a great and fun weekend y'all!!!

~ Wordless Wednesday ~ Let's Play HORSE ~

Wordless Wednesdays~Rainbows of Life~

FWF ~ First Time Home Buyer ~

Little late, but better late than never!  Today's free writing Friday is coming a little later this week.  But I've been a little crazy this past week.
 
Since the separation and divorce the boys and I have called someone else's home our home.  This place we've been living in belongs to a family member.  It served a dual purpose us living here for the last several years. It gave us a roof over our head at an affordable rate while allowing this family member to hold on to something they weren't ready to part with just yet.  It is a cute and tiny house! And when I say tiny...I mean, only one bedroom.  The boys and I have been sharing our space...talk about no privacy!  BUT I am not knocking it, it has served a very useful purpose.  It has allowed us to get back on our feet.  It has allowed me to regain my independence and given me the courage to move forward.  It has been our safe place.   MY safe place.

NOW is the time to set out on another first.....I have been in the process of buying my first house.  I have never bought my OWN house.  All the places we lived in while I was married, were already in the possession of my ex.  We called home the family farm.... and I loved it there.  But never got to "pick" my own place.  So the fact I am doing this totally on my own is exciting and at the same time stressful!

This process of buying my first house has been exhausting!  WHAT a process it is!?!?  My closing is slated to be May 30th....and I still haven't gotten a confirmation, a definite that it is indeed happening!  And that has this worry wort, well a little worried.  I keep being told that everything is going well, and as it should.  But everyday, it seems to be something else...that the underwriter wants!  The only thing I haven't provided at this point is my DNA!

I am so not a patient person!  I just want to know that I indeed will be a first time home owner this time next week!  I just want my OWN bedroom!

Is that really too much to ask?!?!  

Now that it is Memorial Day weekend, I must wait another four days to get an answer!!!!  MORE waiting.....So I will take and try to relax this weekend...and practice my patience!  

I wish you all a happy and safe Memorial Day!

~Marcy~

I'm a Single Mom......

I know this is not a new concept!  Women have been raising children on their own for decades!    And there are mixed feelings, reviews, and studies as to how well children turn out in single parent homes. I am not here to say one is better than the other.  And I'm not saying parenting in a two parent home is any easier. Parenting in general is tough.

I have very helpful, reliable parents who make it possible for me to get to work on time in the mornings by seeing my boys off to school.  Who will be there to go pick them up when they are sick and I can't get the time off.  My parents are my support system!  I know I would find a way if I did not have my parents.   I am very grateful and very fortunate to have my parents.  

That all being said.  I want to vent...vent about the fact that the fathers in the divorced relationship not ALWAYS, but in most cases have no freakin' clue what we do! They didn't know what we did when we were married, they have no clue NOW especially.  They get to be the fun weekend parent.  They don't have to worry about homework, carpooling, phone calls from the school, sick kids being sent home from school, taking the kids to their appointments, blah, blah, blah. They don't have to worry about finding child care.   Breakfast, lunch, dinner, NO they only have to worry about taking them to dinner when they pick them up or ordering take out....they get to do the fun activities.  They get to fill their weekends up with fun, they don't deal with the mundane, day to day issues.  So of course the kids can't wait to go to "dads" for the weekend...of course "dad let's you do this, or dad let's you do that".  DAD is the fun part time parent.  They do not parent 24/7.  Oh there are those who actually call their children during the week, and kudos to them that take the time to do so... there are those who don't even do that....BUT you still don't have to be the parent 24/7 and you don't know what it's like to do it alone.

The realization hit me this morning..I am the primary parent.  I AM the one who has to make sure child care is arranged so that I can make it to work on time.  I AM the one who is responsible for everything. And I don't mind it at all, I make it work.  I LOVE being a mom.  I LOVE my boys.  They are my world. BUT the realization that I no longer have a partner to "partner" in parenting my boys, hit me hard today. It overwhelmed me.   I really am a single mom.  And I know I can do it...I will do it. I AM doing it!  I am fine, they are fine, WE will be fine.  BUT it still sux sometimes!  

I would love to hear from other single moms/single parents...Offer up some encouraging words for each other!   How do you do it sometimes?  Does anyone else feel overwhelmed at times?  What do you do when you are feeling overwhelmed?

Wordless Wednesday ~ The Impossible is Probable~

Learning to be a DIYer ~ More Firsts for Me!! ~

So, among the many other things I'm learning to do on my own since becoming a divorcee, I'm learning to be a DIYer!!

I have no idea what my style would be considered.  I think I'm more of an eclectic gal..love mixing and matching.  Shabby chic maybe...I dunno.  Anyways, while I've been trying to figure out what I LIKE and not worried about what I'm told to like, I've decided that I really like the brown/turquoise color scheme.

I've always envied those peeps who can take an old piece of furniture and reinvent it, making it work with their decor.  Wanted to always try it...but have lacked the confidence to go ahead and do it.

I've been looking for a particular TV stand....haven't found exactly what I love or what I thought I was willing to pay that much for.  I was at a local mission/thrift store and found what I think to be a record player stand thingy.  The thought came to me...WHAT if I painted this and then sanded...OR chalk painted...or what if I just tried something different???  It was only $20.00, so what could it hurt?  Why not try it?  That is what I did!  I tried it!  And this is what I got...........

Before........

And after........I will cut holes in the back to thread the cords through the back...

I enjoyed expanding my horizons and trying something new and totally out of my box!  I am so ready to do another project...I mean practice makes perfect, right????